Are you restraining yourself?

"Why can't I do the best that I can do?", asks Dash, unhappily, to his mum, Elastigirl, in The Incredibles.

Great question, isn't it? In the Incredible, Dash's mum replies, "Right now, the world just wants us to fit in, and to fit in, we need to be like everyone else". But is that the world we live in? I believe it isn't. The world we live in allows us to be our best. The people around us want to be our best. And yet, we are the ones who hold ourselves back from being our best. Unlike Dash, it is not society and others around us who are stopping us from unleashing our abilities, we stop ourselves by thinking the same limiting thoughts, repeating the same behaviours and routinely doing what does not help.


In our work life...
We might stay in a job and keep doing what have been even though it is not what we really want because we are scared to take the risk of moving or because we don't know what it is we do want.
We might stay in conflict with others or keep bearing undesirable feelings about work because of our pride or our fear of admitting our limitations or telling the truth about our feelings.
We might believe others who have what we want are 'luckier' than us because we think we cannot do what they have done to get there and that we do not have the means. So we keep doing exactly what we've been doing.


But is it others telling you to be scared are you the one too scared to do something to change the situation? Is it up to others to realise what you want or is it you who needs to find out what you want? If others will not change and you do something about the situation, would things ever change or would they continue as it is? If something isn't working and you keep doing the same thing, how can you expect to get different results?


NLP Coaching at CCC Travel helps you move in the right direction to get what you want and have more enjoyable and desirable job and career experiences breaking your old habits, routines and ways of thinking and opening yourself to new possibilities.


To close your mind is like having a handcuff that only lock tighter as you struggle through each day.


With CCC Travel, it is like unclenching your fist and being able to grasp all the new and better possibilities.

Destruction of your career with minor fears

Almost everyone has some form of irrational fear.  Clearly severe fears or phobias can interfere with normal day-to-day jobs - one with severe claustrophobia might feel the need turn down a job that involves taking a lift.

One with a severe fear of heights may give up on a better paid job working in a high rise.

One with social phobia may avoid working with others at all costs to avoid being judged.

However, minor fears or anxieties can also interfere with your own performance in the long term. If you feel anxious in enclosed places you might find yourself feeling uncomfortable every time you step into the enclosed office of your boss, feeling woozy every time you are asked to attend a conference with a large group, or making excuses to miss important meetings with others located in small rooms. With a slight fear of heights, you may find yourself taking the time and expending more fuel to drive an extra 10 miles to avoid a tall bridge, avoid speaking to team colleagues sitting by windows, or venture less down the flights of stairs to interact with other departments. They may seem insignificant each time, yet these fears aren't going to go away if you do not do anything about it, and over time, these little things can amount and impact on your work, for example, leaving you with negative feelings about your boss or reluctant to give to conferences that provide you with opportunities, or damaging your ability to save money or network and gain reputation.



Even worse, as time goes by the fear can get worse and become more severe. We've all heard about Pavlov's conditioning or know about how training a dog works. We tell a dog to sit and give it a reward when it does and by repeating this, the dog learns to associate sitting with a reward. Unfortunately humans as just like animals when it comes to learning. Only with fears the reward is not a good one. The first few times you see or experience your fear, it causes you anxiety you cannot control. Each time it occurs again, the association strengthens. After some time, just thinking about the feared object of situation will make you nervous and each time that occurs, the association is strengthened even further in our neural connections. You can imagine what could happen with time if you let your fears continue.

Right now, we all have a choice, to keep these severe or minor fears, which prevent us from living the life in the most enjoyable way, or to live a carefree life without fear. Why would you choose to keep the fears and let them potentially become more severe? Why are you CHOOSING to let them inconvenience you and make you change your lifestyles to accommodate them when you don't even want or need?

Here are just some of the typical fears we may have:

Fear of public speaking - fear of social situations where you may be judged, embarrassed or humiliated
Do you really want to avoid career advancing opportunities to present to others and make yourself know, or be talked about as the manager or leader who cannot or avoids speaking directly to large teams?

Fear of failure - fear of taking risks and inclination to play it safe
Do you really want to pass up valuable opportunities and learn from less useful options to make better choices?

Fear of rejection - fear of feeling undesired, 
Do you really want to regret doing things, finding out what could have happened and missing opportunities?

Fear of conflict - fear of expressing your true feelings, opinions, wants and desires
Do you really want to create a lack of understanding and cause conflict with others as a result of having this fear or conflict within yourself from not be truthful about your true self?

Fear of success - the fear of being more superior and different from others and having what others are seeking
Do you really want to never be successful by holding on to this fear and have something to be proud of, something you have achieved?

Fear of making decisions - fear of choosing, making wrong choices, and the inclination to procrastinate to avoid decisions
Do you want to continue letting others take credit for the right decisions or tread on all opportunities to advance to more senior positions where decisions are required?


Why not receive your free half hour consultation to find out more about how my NLP coaching can help you. Just visit my CCC Travel website

I can't HELP it. I'm TOO BUSY for personal development.

It is often so easy to put the things we want to do aside 'for later' where there are already so much things we 'have' or 'need' to do.


In our work, job, or career, we often think about what we would like to be or do - advance or get a promotion, find a different job, improve our profiles and recognition, gain more experience and skills, do something different and more interesting - yet we often don't have the time to take action to get there: we just can't help it or we are just too busy for personal development, to find time to do the things we want to do, or just to have some time off. Yet just consider...


What would getting it give you and what the result of that do for you? 


Is a promotion only about more money or would it also give you other things you want like greater status and recognition, more opportunities for for experience and skills, something different, a huge sense of achievement and would the money give me more freedom, reward and happiness

Would the experience be simply that or would it also give you more opportunities to learn, make contacts and discover further options for your career, profile and confidence, and more options for the career and life-changing experiences you want you actually want?

Would experiencing a different job or travel experience just give you some variation in your life or would it also give you greater motivation, a better life-work balance and health, more drive to achieve more knowledge and could that help me further your career and promotion?

So if you want these things that can help you, what is stopping you from taking action to get it? Has time really got the legs to run away from you? Does it really have the ability to change shape and slip through your fingers?

Or are you the one who, for whatever reasons, often chooses to prioritise to do something else with the time you have?


We all make the best choice we can at the time - but what's stopping you from changing your priorities and making the time to get the work, career and life you do want? Are we all really HELPLESS and are we ALWAYS and FOREVER TOO BUSY or is there a point when we do have some time we could use instead of wasting to be happier and get what we want?


Why would you not want to choose to have control of your life and enjoy every moment with the support of CCC Travel? Do you want to find the time you need to advance your career? Do you want to find time for yourself to do what you need to relax or to have some time off? Just click to here find out more and receive free resources and a free half hour consultation about how you can take control and find the time you haven't been able to.